Here is a guest blog post from an adoptive mom's perspective about adoption. They adopted their daughter Faith from China. I met this mom via Instagram because we follow some of the same people. It turns out that we live near each other and her daughter goes to the same hospital that I am a patient at. I really enjoyed what Michelle had to say about adoption. Her mentality is not that they saved their daughter but that their daughter has blessed them. The link to Michelle's blog will be at the end of this post.
(Michelle and her daughter Faith)
Our family was in the market for an RV. With as many small
children as we have, we decided the best way to vacation would be to do it via
our own “mobile hotel room”. We entered the main office of our local RV
dealership ready to make a deal. As my husband spoke with the salesman on RV
specifics, I walked around the office, keeping our four children entertained.
It turned out that the dealership did not sell an RV with the layout we were
looking for, but before we left, the dealer asked if he could speak to both of
us and called me into his cubical.
I sat down next to my husband in a
seat across from the salesman thinking he was about to give us an elaborate
sale’s pitch to try to talk us into buying a model we weren’t interested it.
Instead, he looked at each of us and said, “I want you to know that what you
have done for that little girl is amazing. I admire you. She is so lucky to
have you.”
While I appreciate the sentiment and
I admit, the verbal pat on the back feels very good sometimes, what we did in
adopting our youngest child doesn’t compare to what she has done for us. Stacy Manning put it correctly when she
said, “Adoption doesn’t make a child lucky. It makes him loved and part of a
family, but it also makes him touched by a deep loss and that is not lucky.”
Our adopted
daughter, Faith, was abandoned by her birthparents hours after being born and spent
the first three years of her life in an orphanage in Zhoukou, China. We don’t
know much about those first three years, other than what her hospital records
tell us, but her doctors here think most of those years were spent in a crib
with little interaction. She was handed over to us with brittle and course hair
chopped short and intestinal parasites literally eating her from the inside
out. She couldn’t walk, feared men, toys and abandonment. She was also very malnourished.
She had turned 3 days before we met her, yet she was the size and weight of a 6
- 9 months old baby. She couldn’t walk, didn’t talk, and could not even feed
herself. Upon seeing her pediatrician here at home, she was diagnosed with
“failure to thrive”. On top of all of that, one day we came along and forced
her to leave the only home she had ever known, her country and her culture.
None of this sounds “lucky” to me.
In the following year, we watched as an infant grew in fast
forward. She learned English, gained 11 pounds and 4 inches, she began walking
a month after coming home and then relearned to walk after successive casting
and heel cord release surgery to correct her clubbed feet. Instead of spending
her days in the confines of a crib, she spends them surrounded by siblings, a
mommy and a daddy. Most of all she has a light from within that shines in her
eyes because she knows that she is wanted, cherished and loved forever. God
took a little life that was abandoned hours after her birth, had no family and
was literally dying and has truly redeemed her life! In Joes 2:25 the Lord
promises, “I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten” and we have
seen that promised redemption lived out in our little Faith.
The most
amazing part of all of this is that we were chosen to have a front seat to it
all! We truly are the lucky ones to be able to witness the miraculous power of
love first hand. She endured difficulties beyond imagination while we received
a pure blessing – her as a part of our family. Faith has taught us so much and
is an inspiration to so many. If we had not opened our hearts to adoption we
would have missed it all!
Adoption isn’t about being an amazingly compassionate or
perfect person. If it were, no one would be qualified to adopt. Adoption also
isn’t about getting a lucky break in being chosen by a family. Adoption is about
opening your heart to love- whether you are the adopter or the adoptee. It is
about being able to provide a loving environment that encourages spiritual,
emotional, and physical growth. The miracle of adoption is that a stranger from
as far as a world away suddenly and completely becomes family. Thank you, Mr. RV
Dealer, but you got it all wrong. We are not amazing, she is the amazing one
and we are the “lucky” ones to have been given the honor to raise this precious
girl and to be able to witness the true miracle of adoption.
Here is the link to Michelle's blog http://foretastesofglory.blogspot.com/
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